Lavender and Love at Cain Manor for Rebecca and Tom

A September wedding featuring lavender and a rustic theme at Cain Manor.

The bride and groom in the gardens at Cain Manor

About the Couple

Rebecca and Tom met at an Arts Marketing Association Conference and were together for 5 years before going on a holiday that would change their futures forever. The couple were staying near Lake Garda and Tom had been insistent that the couple go for a hike so that they could see the best views possible. Rebecca (who was more interested in drinking Aperol Spritz) went along for the hike but was relieved when they reached the top of the mountain to rest on a bench. She was lost for words when Tom revealed the most incredible engagement ring, proposing with the most stunning backdrop of Lake Garda behind them. Rebecca, who fell instantly in love with her diamond engagement ring accepted Tom’s proposal and the couple spent the next 18 months planning their wedding and future life together. 

Booking a Barn Wedding Venue 

The wedding planning couple researched local barn wedding venues online before stumbling across Cain Manor. They knew they’d have a guest list of approximately 80 guests, and with a maximum day capacity of 123, Cain Manor felt perfect. The couple visited 4 different wedding venues in person but really loved how Cain Manor offered 24-hour exclusivity with accommodation, as well as the helpful online planner. The couple first visited Cain Manor in June 2016 and booked their wedding for September 2017, giving them plenty of time to plan and organise their rustic barn wedding celebration. 

The bride wore a ballgown wedding dress by Caroline Castigliano to her Cain Manor wedding
A home-made wedding cake and table plan at Cain Manor

Summer Wedding Plans and Preparations 

Rebecca didn't want a fussy wedding dress but was sure that she wanted to wear something utterly fabulous as she said ‘I do’ to the man of her dreams. She ventured up to the Caroline Castigliano boutique in Knightsbridge and after trying on 8 different styles, ordered a truly elegant, classic ballgown style wedding dress featuring a sweetheart neckline and a lovely long train. A band around the waist added a touch of sparkle to Rebecca’s bridal look and she teamed her gown up with a pair of blue wedding shoes and a pretty veil. Her hair was styled at Ruby Mane Salon and her makeup was done by Ellky May. 

The bride chose friends Joanne and Katy to be bridesmaids and the trio spent the day shopping for dresses in London. Rebecca and Tom’s wedding followed a lavender colour theme, and, after shopping around, the girls found perfect lavender coloured dresses with an asymmetrical neckline from bridesmaid specialists Dessy. 

The groom, Tom, bought a pale grey 3-piece suit from John Lewis and his grooms party wore suits from Moss Bros.

Lavender Wedding Flowers 

Rebecca and Tom hired Jodie Sutch from The Little Violet Florist to take care of all their floral arrangements. As a lavender colour scheme ran throughout the day, it was obvious that lavender should be featured as frequently as possible. The bride had lavender in her bouquet and the groom wore lavender on his button hole. Lavender also featured on the registrars table, the table plan, on the cake, in pots on reception tables and on chairs down the aisle in The Music Room. When the wedding was over, Rebecca dried her bouquet and now has it hanging as a memory at home. 

The Big Day: 9thSeptember, 2017

Rebecca arrived at Cain Manor at 11am on the morning of her wedding, giving her plenty of time to prepare before the ceremony at 3:30pm. The Music Room was beautifully decorated ahead of the ceremony and featured twinkly fairy lights, flowers and hurricane vases to create a romantic feel. Rebecca’s father walked her down the aisle towards Tom, to the sounds of a song called ‘Spanish Romance’ played on a Spanish guitar. The couple were delighted to see each other and a guest list of 82 witnessed their very special vows. 

The sun was shining bright after the ceremony so the newlywed couple along with their guests were able to enjoy the beautiful grounds, gardens and far-reaching views across Surrey’s Golden Valley. After several memorable photographs with friends, the bridal party and as a couple, the bride, groom and guests were asked to take their seats at the wedding banquet. The couple created a simple but stunning table plan by standing pots on a rustic step-ladder with sticks featuring the number of each table and guest names. It fitted in with the lavender wedding theme perfectly. 

Wedding Banquet Menu 


Peat-smoked salmon, pea shoots & beetroot with charlotte potato salad & edible flowers


Slow braised sticky Hampshire beef with creamed parsnip mash, root vegetable crisps and olivette carrots


Sticky toffee pudding with toffee sauce, glazed pecans and mascarpone ice cream

Wedding reception tables were decorated with pots of fragrant herbs, olive and rosemary oil. Small bottles of olive oil were given as favours and an advice card was placed at each setting for guests to fill out and add to the couples’ guest book. 

Rebecca’s mother made a stunning three tier wedding cake for the couple. Flavours included fruit, chocolate and lemon poppy seed and it was decorated with olive branches and a touch of lavender.

During the evening, the couple had hired a band called ‘The Get Down’, who played ‘It Had To Be You’ from the hit movie When Harry Met Sally, as the first dance song. The rest of the wedding party then danced their way around The Music Room and enjoyed an evening buffet consisting of British cheeses, a variety of breads, biscuits and fresh fruit. 

The newlyweds celebrated their marriage by spending two weeks in The Seychelles, spending a week on Praslin and a week on Denis Private Island. It was the perfect end to their perfect wedding. 

Rebecca and Tom’s Wedding Suppliers

Wedding Venue: Cain Manor 
Wedding Photographer: Bill Sykes
Wedding Dress: Caroline Castigliano 
Wedding Hair: Ruby Mane Salon 
Wedding Makeup: Ellky May
Bridesmaids Dresses: Dessy 
Groomswear: Moss Bross + John Lewis
Wedding Florist: The Little Violet Florist
Decorative Fairy lights: Bijou Faux Hire 
Wedding Cake: Homemade
Wedding Band: The Get Down
Wedding Gift List: John Lewis
Wedding Insurance: M&S

Cain Manor is a luxury barn wedding venue located on the Hampshire Surrey border
Beautiful wedding stationery for a Cain Manor wedding
The bride used her wedding shoes as her something blue.
Lavender wedding dresses by designer Dessy
The bride preparing in the oak beamed, barn style bridal suite
Wedding flowers featuring lavender
A stunning bouquet for the bride at Cain Manor
The bride making her way down to the wedding ceremony at Cain Manor
The groom at the top of the Cain Manor altar
The bridesmaids walking ahead of the bride at Cain Manor
The bride walking down the aisle at Cain Manor in Hampshire
The bride and groom pronounced as husband and wife at Cain Manor
The registrar table at Cain Manor on the Hampshire Surrey border
The newlywed couple enjoying a celebratory drink after their marriage at Cain Manor
The bride and bridesmaids in the gardens at Cain Manor
The bride in the beautiful gardens at Cain Manor
The bride and groom enjoying the country gardens at Cain Manor
A unique wedding table plan featuring lavender at Cain Manor
A hand-made wedding table plan at Cain Manor featuring lavender
Wedding advice cards giving to guests to complete for the guest book
A menu card placed on each wedding reception table at Cain Manor
82 guests at Cain Manor in Hampshire for a wedding banquet
A rustic wedding cake featuring olive branches and lavender
The bridal bouquet featuring lavender at Cain Manor
The bride and groom watching the sunset in the distance at Cain Manor
Cutting the wedding cake at Cain Manor
The first dance in The Music Room at Cain Manor
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