The first dance - an introduction

You’ve tied the knot, had the snaps taken with your new in-laws, tucked into your delicious wedding breakfast and cut your cake. It’s been a wonderful day, everything you hoped it would be. 


Thanks to Strictly come dancing, choreographed first dances are so much more popular

The serious stuff is over and now it’s time to let your hair down and have some fun! Your evening party is the perfect chance for you and all your guests to dust off your dancing shoes and strut your stuff on the dance floor.

It is traditional to kick off the dancing with the Bride and Groom’s first dance.  It has been suggested that this stems from an ancient ritual where the Bride was stolen from her own tribe and held captive in a foreign territory; the Groom would then show off his new Bride to his own tribe. Luckily we don’t have to go quite that far any more, however the first dance is still symbolic of the new Bride and Groom coming together as one.

As ballroom dancing was historically a widespread skill, in days gone by the first dance tended to be a waltz. However, as ballroom dancing is no longer a common skill in today’s society, couples tend to opt for a slow dance.

Thanks to the rise of Strictly over the last couple of years, it has become increasingly popular for the Bride and Groom to ‘perform’ a choreographed dance routine for their first dance. This is not essential and is certainly not for everyone, however it is definitely an option if you are looking to ‘wow’ your guests on the dance floor and do something a bit different. You might want to recreate the famous lift from Dirty Dancing or fancy yourselves as the next Fred and Ginger!  You will find that many dance instructors now offer first dance lessons, either to help you come up with a specific routine or just to help you both feel more confident with the safer slow dance.

Choosing the song for your first dance is a very important decision. Whether it is a slow romantic song or something more upbeat, make sure it is a song that means something to you both as a couple and reflects your personalities. If you are stuck for inspiration, here are 10 of the most popular First Dance songs:

  • I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing – Aerosmith
  • Amazed – Lonestar
  • Wherever You Will Go – Charlene Soraia
  • Iris – The Goo Goo Dolls
  • I’m Yours – Jason Mraz
  • A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
  • At Last – Etta James
  • Truly Madly Deeply – Savage Garden
  • Lets Stay Together – Al Green
  • Run – Leona Lewis

After the first dance, all the guests are invited to join the Bride and Groom on the dance floor. It is tradition for the Groom to dance with his new Mother-in-law and then with his mother, while the Bride may dance with her new Father-in-law and then her own father.