Wedding guests buy present for the happy couple to show thanks for being allowed to join their celebrations. Traditionally these wedding gifts were given to the Bride and Groom to contribute towards kitting out their new martial home and life together. So with an increasing number of couples nowadays already living together or owning there own home before marriage, what can be given as an alternative gift?
There are many different ways to show appreciation as a guest, but its great to actually get the Bride and Groom something they want and can put to good use.
Couples can get the ball rolling by letting guest know in the early planning stages of the wedding that (in the nicest way possible) ‘of course gifts aren’t expected, just to have your company on our Big Day is more than enough, but if you did want to get a little something to mark the occasion wouldn’t something we want be better than a toaster we will never use?’
A suggestion of a gift can be money. Asking for money doesn’t always sit comfortably with couples and it can be an uncomfortable scenario to ask for money as a wedding gift - where is the thought in that? However all that’s needed in these situations is a little bit of tact. It’s no longer seen as ‘rude’ to ask for money, in fact guests prefer to give the happy couple something that can go towards something they want.
Money can be put towards items for their ‘future’ dream house, a new car, or a honeymoon; jetting off to a dream destination the Bride and Groom wouldn’t normally be able to afford. Now doesn’t that sound nicer than a china set?
Alternatively another idea for the happy couple may include a memory-making gift. Most couples will have been saving for a long time for their Big Day, missing out on some of the finer things in life. So why not treat them to something they wouldn’t do every day and will always remember? How about a fancy meal in a Michelin star restaurant, a hot air balloon ride or maybe even a sky dive for the more adventurous couple?
Personalised gifts are always greatly received; they’re considered thoughtful and sentimental, now who doesn’t like that? A keepsake that will always remind the happy couple of their day and can be anything from engraved glasses, planting a tree for them or a photo shoot for their first anniversary. Another personal gift idea is ‘Something that grows old with you’; why not buy them a collection of vintage wine that improves with time, just like they will.
Reverse gift list
A different gift idea is the reverse wedding gift list; involve guests by getting them to contribute to the day itself, have all those added extras that make the perfect day just that bit more perfect, and don’t stretch the bank balance. Having the guests contribute to the drinks, entertainment, or even something a bit more out there, like fireworks to end the night can create a togetherness atmosphere at the event of the decade.
Giving something back is a perfect present for the couple that has everything. Donating to charity, sponsoring a good cause or sponsoring them up for the London Marathon is a lovely gift idea. Helping someone else who is less fortunate feel the love that the Bride and Groom have.
But all suggestions aside no matter what the gift, being there on their magical day is all counts.