Modern-day Wedding Myths

A collection of modern-day wedding myths explained, but whether you choose to believe them or not is up to you!

A collection of modern-day wedding myths that you can choose to believe or not

It's rare to go a week without hearing a myth, but when it comes to planning a wedding there are dozens of myths flying around. Rather than repeat wedding myths from days gone by, we thought it would be fun to cover some of the more logistical, modern day myths and legends that can, if unchecked, result in you unnecessarily restricting the expression of your individualism on the most important day of your life. You don't want to be surrounded by people you hardly know just because they invited you to their wedding (or do you?). Of course every one of these has two sides - the tradition that they represent can equally well be part of that individualism that you want to express.

Wedding Planning Myths

Weddings mean wearing a white dress

If the idea of a huge meringue dress and full-blown veil doesn’t appeal, don’t stress! There is no rule dictating you have to conform to the norm. There are a huge array of alternatives these days. Consider pastels: egg shell blues, champagne and blush pink are less harsh on many skin tones than the traditional bright white. Don’t be afraid to add colour: simple dresses can be jazzed up with ribbons, sashes, flowers or feathers to name a few.

A wedding planner will solve all your problems

In actual fact they can sometimes be more trouble than they are worth. However, if you are considering hiring a wedding planner, meet with a few before making a final decision to ensure you’re on the same wave-length. 

You have to have a balance of bridesmaids and ushers

So maybe you have several close knit girlfriends and he only has a couple of “real” mates. Don't feel like you have to hire extras to even out the sides. What's important is that everyone you feel close to is a part of your day. Divvy up the jobs: there's no rule that says both sides should have the same number.

Myths About Wedding Etiquette

If you went to their wedding, you have to invite them to yours

Don't feel you must invite someone just because they invited you to their wedding. It's your day so throw caution to the wind and invite the people you feel closest to. If someone assumes they're invited, let them know up front (sooner rather than later) that because of space or budget constraints, you had to limit the guest list. Know that however hard you try you won’t be able to please absolutely everyone.

You have to book your supplier friends, just because they’re your friends

Just because your friend's Instagram account is full of great selfies doesn't mean your wedding pictures will come good if you nominate them to be your wedding photographer. An experienced wedding photographer knows how to shoot a mix of action shots (getting ready, first dance, exchanging vows) while also capturing all the must-have family and bridal party photos. The same goes for all other categories, like flowers and music so never feel obliged to book your mates, just because they’re your mates. Look for local pros in your area, and if money is a concern, just be open and honest about your budget from the start. If you really can't afford a professional, ask them for recommendations of lower budget professionals with similar styles.

Wedding Budget Myths

A DIY wedding will be low budget

“DIY” might sound more affordable, but unless you have unlimited access to the supplies it takes to create your wedding favours, invites or flower arrangements, the cost of these items alone is going to snowball. Do some research before you start buying paper and flowers in bulk to make sure it wouldn't be worth your while (at the very least your sanity) to simply pay someone else to do it.

You will end up in terrible debt paying for your wedding

There are easy ways to save money, so don't start your life together in debt! Get your priorities right, if you've always known you want a designer wedding dress, a venue with a view or an amazing bouquet, invest in the most important things and save on other elements.

Wedding Reception Myths

A DJ is too cheesy

Admittedly, some wedding DJs are cheesy but simply talking through the songs you love and telling the DJ if there’s anything you want locked in Room 101 can help guarantee a playlist that everyone will enjoy. At Bijou, our DJs will work with couples to ensure all musical tastes are catered for on the big day

Wedding food is never very good

Just because you've been to weddings with less than tasty food doesn't mean that's the norm. The in-house catering department at Bijou offer a wide choice of menu options catering to all tastes; they bring farm-fresh ingredients to the reception table with local produce and seasonal menus that no one will be able to resist.