A break down of who you need to include in your wedding party and what responsibilities they should expect to take on
A successful wedding is always the result of a team effort. Being asked to become part of this team shows an intimacy and trust amongst friends and should be considered a huge privilege. However, being included in a wedding party also involves a lot of responsibility and dedication to the bride and groom, at a time when they may need you the most.
The Wedding Party: Who Does What?
Below is a break down of the roles and responsibilities of the wedding party.
The Best Man
The Groom’s biggest source of support will likely come from the Best Man, not unlike the role of the maid of honour to the Bride. He will be on hand throughout the planning stages functioning as fashion consultant, stag-do organiser and general helper of all things ‘wedding’.
On the day itself, he is the man everyone will depend on – getting the groom to the church(!), keeping an eye on the ushers, paying suppliers, making sure the guests are happy and, most importantly, making his speech. If you decide against having a Toastmaster, he will more thank likely assume this role as well.
The Maid of Honour/Chief Bridesmaid
Before the wedding, duties of the Maid of Honour mainly involve organising the bridesmaids’ activities, such as dress fittings, bridal showers and hen parties. On the wedding day, she will help the bride get ready, sign the marriage certificate as the Bride’s witness and organise the bridesmaids for formal pictures. The Maid of Honour may also be invited to make a speech at the wedding reception. You may ask your Maid of Honour to visit wedding venues with you if your other half is unavailable at the time.
The Bridesmaids are there to assist the maid of honour with her wedding planning duties, especially the hen party! The bridesmaids will typically walk down the aisle behind the Maid of Honour on the big day and support the bride throughout the wedding whenever she needs it.
Other than periodically checking with the Groom and Best Man to see if they can be of any assistance, the ushers (also referred to as Groomsmen) have little responsibility prior to the wedding day, besides the stag!
On the day itself, they should form an advanced welcoming party for any guests arriving early and show them to their seats.
Little girls who scatter petals down the aisle before the Bride’s entrance. A flower girl is usually a family member such as a daughter or niece.
A page boy, also known as a ring bearer, usually carries a small cushion down the aisle which holds the wedding rings on top. A page boy would walk down the aisle along side or behind the flower girl(s).
Not a requirement by any means but if you have unruly friends and family and can identify someone in your wedding party with a loud voice (ideally that they enjoy the sound of) then this can be very helpful when it comes to keeping your guests moving around the day. This role can be a great 'Second Best Man' option too if there's someone else you'd like to highlight as being a best bud. Alternatively, of course you can outsource this job to a professional Toastmaster if need be.
Top Tip: The Mother of the Bride, The Father of the Bride, The Mother of the Groom and The Father of the Groom are also sometimes considered part of the wedding party and shouldn't be forgotten when it comes to floral boutonnieres, corsages and the top table seating plan.
How to Ask your Friends to be Part of your Wedding?
Asking your friends or family members to be involved in your wedding should be an exciting experience, so after you've read up on how to choose your bridesmaids, we’ve listed a variety of ways to word popping the question to your potential wedding party…
- I can’t say ‘I do’ without you! Will you be my bridesmaid?
- Now it’s my turn to pop the question: Will you be my bridesmaid?
- I couldn’t tie the knot without you by my side. Will you be my bridesmaid?
- I’ve got my guy, now I need my girls! Will you be my bridesmaid?
- Please do me the honour, of being my Maid of Honour!
- He’s marrying me, but he’s stuck with ‘us’ – will you be my bridesmaid?
- Be my bridesmaid? Please say ‘I do’.
Organising your Wedding Party: Bijou’s Top Tips
Planning a wedding can be a stressful time and having your bridesmaids, best man and friends to support you will help – but below are some top tips to remember when it comes to keeping your wedding party cool, calm and organised.
Communicating what you want your wedding party to do is key. Meet with them regularly and discuss their jobs and responsibilities form the start.
Plan in Advance
Remember, your wedding party will be coordinating their own lives too, so don’t spring anything on them at the last minute. If you need them to be somewhere or to do something specific, at a certain time or on a certain date, let them know in advance.
If one of your bridesmaids feels uncomfortable with the choice of dress you’ve chosen them to wear or not everyone can make it to your destination hen party due to finances, try to be accommodating to their wishes where possible.
Don’t Expect Too Much
Remember that members of your wedding party are there to help you, not do everything for you.
After all their hard work you’ll want to thank your wedding party once your big day has arrived. Ensure you have ‘thank you gifts for the wedding party’ included within your wedding budget from the beginning.